Yes. Under no circumstances should you ever put yourself in a position where you engage in any sort of sexual activity with him again.
Read your ask. Read what you wrote. Seriously. Read it. Read it carefully. You told a guy who you’re having sex with something you did not want him to do and something that you didn’t like and that scared you. He ignored your wishes and did it (repeatedly) again. This piece of fucking garbage is a predator. Do not engage with him.
I’m sure there’s a part of you that’s thinking, “Oh no, AOD, he’s a good guy, he’s really nice, he just gets carried away.” No. One hundred fucking percent no. He’s ignoring your specific hard limits. He is not to be trusted. He is not to be engaged with. He is certainly not someone worthy of your body.
You need to protect yourself. He has proven repeatedly that your words and limits are meaningless. Please, for your own good, do not consider being intimate with him.
It’s great that you’re exploring your interests and learning about yourself. I wish I did that at your age. There’s nothing wrong with finding someone who wants to do that with you. But it needs to be done consensually. Where you’re both respecting each other and exploring things you both desire and are willing to try.
If you wrote me and said this happened once, I’d tell you to explain to him that you didn’t like it and that it was a hard limit. You did that here. Which is hard and takes courage. You should be proud of yourself for standing up for your needs and limits. When you’re young and in your early 20’s that can be really hard. Keep doing that. Don’t ever stop.
But he has ignored you. He is a piece of shit. He is unworthy of you. What he’s doing is not consensual. It’s criminal. Yes, it’s criminal. You need to stop seeing him. He has lost the right to any explanation or to redeem himself. He should be out of your life. Permanently.
Stay strong. You did absolutely nothing wrong here. You were courageous and brave and you should be proud of yourself. If you need to discuss more, feel free to reach out to me. I wish you all the best and thanks for writing.
